Friday, December 24, 2010

Merry Christmas!

Merry Christmas 2010!


This year does not feel like Christmas. I am sad I will not be getting my early morning Christmas Day jingle from my Granny. As early as it was, I really looked forward to that.


Maybe it is because this year started out rocky for us and so far it has ended on a good note in that department but it still made for a rough year.


I would like to take a second to thank those of you who are not with your loved ones this year, those of you who are divided by a set of orders. While I too, have been in your shoes a time or two, maybe even 3, I want you to know that I am thinking of you. I pray that you have the strength to make it a wonderful Christmas.  Just remember we might not be doing it together but we can support you and actually say we have walked in your shoes.

So, Merry Christmas from our home to yours!

Wednesday, December 15, 2010

The last 5 days

Have been a blur. I am physically and emotionally tired.

Why you ask?

At 630 Saturday Munchkin and I were on a flight to Pensacaola to see my Granny. The same Granny I have mentioned before that had cancer, Stage 4 small cell lung cancer.

Friday I was told I should probably come out and I heard her on the phone say she would pay for my ticket.

Saturday when I made the long journey there she could barely squeeze my hand. :(

My best friend, my Granny, My 2nd mother passed away Saturday December 11th 2010 at 10pm after a long HARD fight with lung cancer.

My Granny was a strong willed, opinionated woman but most of all she always was a fighter. She never backed down from what she wanted or believed in. She taught me the same.

I will always remember shopping, her cooking and cooking from scratch. I will remember those times she watched me play soccer in the heat and the rain, the times she took us swimming and fishing. Leading my girl scout troop and teaching us how to make butter in a baby food jar. Her afro and her stinky hair spray and her love of wild earrings with bright colored clothes. She loved sweet tea and diet coke once upon a time, her dirty romance novels that we went to book stores to get with her list on collage ruled notebook paper. Her learning out to use the first "smart phone" I ever owned.

You see my Granny was a wonderful woman. She saw the good in everyone and was truly a wonderful woman. She was loved by all of my friends and everyone called her Granny.

i could tell you so many things about Granny. I will truly miss her. I called her practically every day, that will be the hardest thing.

I was able to see her give her kisses and tell her how much I love her before she passed. Most of all she was able to see Munchkin, who was named after her.

My Poppy (grandpa) passed away in 1999 and they will be buried together. I just hope the man upstairs is ready for this bunch :)

Granny, I love you and you!

Thursday, December 09, 2010

Juggle....

Last night I signed back into Twitter after not having been on in quite sometime. The folks I have met on Twitter are amazing and I missed the conversation that I had. I feel bad for the fact that I pretty much fell off the face of the earth. I apologize for that.

About 10 years ago I realized that I wanted to own something. I wanted to run something. I did not want someone to run me. Then I had kids!

Growing up I was always crafty and I was always making something.  Now that I have had kids I feel that would be something good for me to get into.

So I started sewing and making Munchkin's diapers and it has lead to other things. Hoping I can just make a couple things a month to pay for the hobby. If it takes off wonderful. If not I can always try later.

I have enjoyed having my husband home with no duty days. He finally gets to do part of his job rather then part of his job and part of everyone else's.

So in juggling family, my home business and life I have neglected my blog. I have a lot to say and a lot that I want to share with you. I hope you are still around for the ride. We have many journeys coming up and I hope you would love to share them with me :)

Saturday, November 27, 2010

Where have I been....

Hello friends. I feel really bad that I have neglected my blog. Honestly, I do. A lot has been going on here.
First off, I have been setting up THIS! I am really excited for what I have coming in the new year. I have been working on it and spending time with family.

As most of my friends and readers know, at the beginning of the year we got orders to a precomm that will be home based in Pearl Harbor Hawaii. We were really excited. Those orders meant we would leave a ship we called work and home for almost 6 years.
Two weeks ago hubby left the ship. It hit me last night. Kinda late huh?

I moved to San Diego 17 years ago this Christmas. We will be leaving in July to start our journey. We are going to spend time with family in a couple states and I am going to head to Hawaii early in hopes for good housing.

I am really scared but super excited for things to come. I will try to post more and have some more updates for you.

I had forgotten what it was like to have my husband home nightly, to go to bed at the same time and have someone to have a conversation with. This military life is not for everyone and it truly is survival of the fittest!

Hope you all had a wonderful Thanksgiving with some great people!

Wednesday, September 22, 2010

Here we come, Locks of Love

Well I did it!

I cut Princess’ hair once in her 5 years on this earth. She had VERY long hair. I could just never bring myself to cut it because it was so beautiful.  Along with being beautiful it was hard to manage and it was getting to the point we both dreaded sitting down to do it.


In March of 2008 my Granny was diagnosed with stage 4 small cell lung cancer, a very bad thing. She would need chemo to hopefully get rid of it. During that chemo she lost her hair.  Well we went down to see Granny that summer and Princess was taken off with the fact Granny had no hair. So we explained the situation to her. Princess then decided that she wanted to donate her hair to sick little girls. She said, after all, She doesn’t NEED all this hair.


I then decided that we would do it right after our wedding, then decided after this summer’s Texas trip we would chop it. I could never bring myself to do it! As the end of summer got closer I mentally prepared myself to chop off her hair.


August 22nd when she went to get ready for school, I chopped it! I was in such shock. I cried for a bit and quickly got over it when she looked in the mirror and said “ I love it, Mom!”


Now she is able to do her own hair and she loves that. It will grow back… One day, but the curls are gone.



In Summer of ’06 when I was pregnant with Ethan I was puking up a storm and that is when I decided to chop off all my hair. It was down to my bum. I went into several places before I found one that would cut it.  I also kept it. I will be sending them both off to LOL. My hair was highlighted but they can send that off for other things and help off set the costs of the wigs.

It feels good to teach the kids that no matter how you help others it can always bring a smile to their face. I hope whom ever gets our hair has fun with it. We are blessed to be able to do such a wonderful thing 

Monday, September 13, 2010

Menu Planning Monday- Asian food!


If I have a menu planned you should know what that means... Hubby will be home for the entire week. That is a big thing to this Navy family :) We are happy campers!

This week will be Asian food, that is mostly all we eat in the house. Hope you enjoy our menu


Monday

  • Pork patty with shrimp balls, rice and cabbage
Tuesday

  • Mandarin Chicken, rice and veggies
Wednesday

  • Chow mein with Shrimp and veggies
Thursday

  • Family fun night, My brother gets his pinning for Chief! 
Friday

  • Korean BBQ, garlic shrimp, corn  and green beans with rice
Saturday

  • Duty day... not really sure yet
Sunday

  • Pho, from a restaurant because it take a long time to make :) 

Hope everyone has a happy week! 

Friday, September 03, 2010

FML Shocker, Every American Should See



Every night before I fall asleep I look at two apps on my iphone- FML (F@#! My Life) and Texts From Last Night. Why? I m not sure they amuse me and make me tired. They are usually pretty funny and make me chuckle. Until I read this one:
Are you kidding me?

I have no way of finding out how true this is. I am going off the fact that this is true. That this actually happened to a group of soldiers that just doing a job they were told to do.

WOW! Really? This is 2010. This war has been going on since 2001, it has sadly become a way of life and a standard news line for the world.

While I have no family currently serving in this war I have dear friends my friends have husbands over there. Seriously folks, this is no game. This is life. This is what they are told to do. If they do not get out there and fight as they are told, will you?

I am not one for war, not at the cost of life. I am for supporting our troops though.

As someone who comes from a strong military background this saddens me. I remember during the Gulf War my uncle was serving in the Army and we tied yellow ribbons on every tree in front of my Granny’s yard until she had him back in her arms.

This is not meant to be a political post, I am not a very political person but this really saddens me.

Most soldiers that fly home from Afghanistan fly through Maine, at least most of them.  I just recently saw a news story how men and women get word of troops coming home and go greet them so they have a homecoming to America.  I think this is awesome. Homecomings are always a happy thing.

No one is asking you to believe in this war, we are asking you to stand by our men and women who put their life on the line to serve our country.

After all, if you can not stand behind or troops, there is plenty of room in front of them! 

Thursday, September 02, 2010

My State Preschool story

In case you have not noticed we are a military family.  Two years ago when I first started looking into preschool for Princess I was blind-sided by information that I did not meet income guidelines.  I had two children and lived in military housing.

For those civilian readers military gets a housing allowance that is based off of the installation where you are living. San Diego is rather high, so is the cost of living. IF you live in housing you do not get that money. If you live out in town you get in along with your paycheck. Military folks call it BHA, in translation Basic Housing ALLOWANCE. Allowance, which is just what it is. It has gone up and it has gone down over the years.

I believe during that time my husbands base pay was around two thousand dollars a month. Granted we did not have to pay rent.

Looking back we made 2238 a month.  Lets just say my husband works a 40 hour work week with 4 weeks a month. That is $13.98 per hour. Not bad right?

Well Let me break this down for you…

At the VERY least he has duty every 6 days. He goes in at 645 say on Thursday (duty day) he does not get off until MAYBE 430 Friday to come home. While on that duty he has watch which is anywhere from 4 hours to 10 hours. Depending on his watch station.

So lets just say he works 7-4 daily that is 9 hours, we will say a 6-day work week (since he has duty every 6 days and is at the ship working a double) that is about $10 an hour. Which from what I believe would put us in the line for State Funded Preschool.

All of this is of course for MY family.  During that year my husband was never home, and I was doing my single mom thing.

Get a job you say? Yes get a job to pay for daycare for the other child and to pay for preschool. It really makes no sense. It is not financially possible.

So that following year I put Princess into a wonderful private preschool and we managed our money rather well and did okay.  Not everyone is able to do that.

This year Prince was up for preschool. He has an IEP and I was told that because he has an IEP that he would be able to go to preschool no matter what.

WRONG.

Once again we will be putting him in private school. We make to much money. Which I knew, my husband made rank since dealing with the situation with Princess.


The thing that upsets me about this situation is that IF I had lived IN housing I could have her in a state preschool if there was one there. If not, I was out of luck. Not if I live out in town though.

What about the families who have someone on deployment, who have someone in a war zone?

We can get WIC and we can get daycare though CDC but we cannot have our children start school at an earlier age to get them started on their education.

I am willing to say that 90% of military kids move at least once in their parent’s careers. I know plenty that move more.  This brings children behind in their education. (I am not saying that ALL military kids are behind in their education)  California has one of, if not the largest Naval Base in California, on the west coast even, why can’t they get funding for military children to start their education at a preschool level? After all hasn’t their been studies to prove that children that start preschool do better in school then those children who do not?

I guess you could say I am sore on the subject. My husband works his butt off for this country, misses so much of my children’s lives and the state is counting EVERY allowance that he gets.

These allowances are just that, an allowance. They can be taken at any time and reduced at any time.  We provide money to this state as well as the economy of the school district because we spend our paychecks here. It saddens me to think that those parents who can not afford a preschool have to wait until kindergarten so their babies can get the education and interaction that they deserve.

Maybe one-day things will change. For now we write our Congressmen and Congresswomen about this issue.






Tuesday, August 31, 2010

Guess who's back...

Here are a couple hints:

  • it involves an ER visit
  • some tears
  • a crap ton of worry
  • some fiber glass
  • some ace bandage
  • last but not least, XRAYS!
Did you take a guess? Do you think you figured it out?

Did you guess a broken bone?! DING DING DING you are correct!

Yep... My little guy will have Mr. Cast again for about 6 weeks. 

From what I know the kids were chasing each other and he crashed into the couch. He broke his wrist. 
Why was I not there to see it? Cause I was putting away clothes... About the time I yelled 

           "Can ya'll please stop runnin" 

I heard him let out a scream that hurts any mama's ears. 

This happened at about 4pm... I gave him some meds leftover from the broken leg and at about 410. 430 came around and he moved his arm on the couch and screamed once again... I knew it was broken :( 

So I get him to the ER at about 530 and they do Xrays of his shoulder and I knew it was not that part of his arm. I asked for full arm Xrays but they said the doc didn't order it.... 

An hour later I was back in Xray doing the wrist. He cried the entire time. Screamed and cried. So guess what, I cried too! 

There is nothing more helpless then your son  crying but you know it is in his best interest that they take these "pictures"

So we go back, doc says I am right his wrist is broken. His arm is now in a splint. 

He gets his hard cast Thursday... 


All these things happen when daddy is gone, which makes it tough. 

I think the couch has been dismissed from our family... Especially one with a hide-a-bed


Sunday, August 29, 2010

First week, done!


Well we got the first week of school down. Schooling that I am still not sure about.  You see, I was spoiled with private preschool last year. This year is a shock to my system.

The first day was a mess! Total mess. They did kindergarten orientation the first day of school. For the first hour! Really? I E and Munchkin with me, that was an adventure.

I have to walk her to school 15 minutes before school and wait for school to start. Really? Weird. So every morning parents wait there in like for 15 minutes for the kids to start school. Then we leave. It is a mess that is for sure.

Then the 2nd day I got a letter sent home saying that they are combining her class with 1st graders. Really? Thanks for asking if I was cool with that. I am assuming they tested her or some sort...

I am trying to be optimistic but things keep bringing me down. She is enjoying her time at school. She is meeting friends and she has not came home with much of an attitude yet.

It is only one week in though....

Friday, August 27, 2010

MilSpouse Friday Fill-in #10


Welcome to MilSpouse Friday Fill-in, hosted by Wife of a Sailor. We are asked 5 questions every week to answer for you to read. If you are not a MilSpouse enjoy my answers, you get to know more about me, if you are a MilSpouse head over and get the questions so we can get to know YOU!

Enjoy! 

*What secret indulgence do you act on while your spouse is away? (from Devil Dog Darling)
I take up the ENTIRE bed. He never believes me ;) 
*If you were a spice, what would you be? (from New Girl On Post)
Pepper... I can be hot and I can be mild. ;)

*Where do you go for support when your significant other is deployed? (from Texas Meets Washington)
My family.  I have done this for so long it is second nature. Being alone does get old and lonely but I know that no matter what I have our family to get me through 

*What is the oldest thing you own? (from A Troop’s Girl
I little red rocking chair that is about 80 years old, probably older. My Granny got it a long long time ago. It has been though 7 kids now and is still rockin

*How did you vision your future pre-military? (from Daddy’s Duty)
I am guessing this question means after the military.... Whatever it is I want more family dinners and no duty.  I have honestly not put any thought into it but I will politely demand a vacay to somewhere tropical and some amazing memories with my hubby ;) 




Thursday, August 26, 2010

Quotable Thursday - Breastfeeding


This weeks topic is breastfeeding! Hope you enjoy! 

Since my journey is over I will send good nursing vibes to others! 

  • "Breastfeeding should not be attempted by fathers with hairy chests, since they can make baby sneeze and give wind." Mike Harding 
  • "I feel cheated never knowing what it is like to get pregnant, carry a child and breastfeed" Dustin Hoffman
  • "Breast milk is better then any udder milk" Unknown  


Breastfeeding.... I made it!

All my babies were breastfed... Some more then others.

Princess was breastfed for about 3 months. After 48 hours of being awake and being alone I gave in. I'mnot sure why I never went back to nursing but I was definatly NOT easier! Midnight bottle feedings are far worse then rolling over and nursing :)

Prince was nursed for 22 months. He remembers it to this day and it was almost 2 years ago that I stopped

Munchkin was nursed 11 months.  While I had no struggles with her like I did the first two, I really wanted my bady back. Me back. As selfish as that is to say it's the truth. I pressured through it and made it the amount of time I wanted, a year.

I have bottle fed, I have breast fed, I've even had to tube feed 2 of my kiddos and by far nursing is the easiest.  I bonded with my babies and gave them something no one else could, liquid gold.

My journey nursing is done, for me at least. One day when I can go to school I hope to get an education in lactation to help other military wives when they are at their end.

Friday, August 20, 2010

Dismissed....

Yesterday while watching the news I was over come with many emotions.

The 4-2 Stryker Brigade left Iraq into Kuwait. It was all over the news. It could not be missed. The homecoming in Ft. Lewis Washington was also all over the news.

While I have no family or friends in that squadron, when I saw a mom hugging her kiddos it broke me down.

You see, my mom did indeed wear combat boots. She was in the Navy but I learned at a young age that duty calls.

Earlier this year my husband returned from deployment, seemed that everything happened while he was gone. Life changed, kids grew, school even started, again!


I am not here to get political, I am not here to write this to say anything negative or positive, I am here to simply say no matter how many of these deployments and homecomings I have seen in my life, went though or will go though, they always bring tears to my eyes. They will always remind me of being a child and waiting impatiently for my mom to pull up from her 6 hour long journey from Jacksonville. I will forever be reminded of my kids faces when daddy comes home, my husband holding his son for the first time.

The roller coaster of emotions deployment brings is not something the average person understands. There are several stages. The feeling of the one you love, the one you have missed, in your arms again is not even the last. I will say it is the best feeling in the world.

To all my friends stationed in harms way, stay safe. To my friends who recently came home, Welcome back, we've missed you...



Hubby waiting to leave the ship after last deployment, <3 him 

 

Thursday, August 19, 2010

MilSpouse Friday Fill-in #9

MilSpouse Friday Fill-in is Hosted by Wife of Sailor Check there every Thursday for questions.



If you could be a fugitive from the law for whatever reason, what would your crime be? (from It’s a Hooah Life)
* Stealing my hubby from PAC


How long do you think you will be a military family? (from Julie the Army Wife)
*Well I am almost 29, all of my life I have been a military family. As of now, I do not want to do a day past August 31, 2013 but the next duty station might change me! 


What’s your favorite recipe? (from Keep Calm and Soldier On)
*My mom's beef stew. Mom has to make it. Something about it :) 


What would you want your last five words to be when you leave this life? (from My Goal is Simple
*I love you, Goodbye. I never say Goodbye. It seems like it is to serious. Being faced with deployments and moves my entire life I never wanted it that serious. I say "I'll see you later" 


Where do you hope to retire? (from Pennies from Heaven)
* Right now it is a toss up between Blaine, Minnesota and Plano, Texas. We have family  in both areas.  Hopefully where ever I rest my head my babies will get a little touch of the things I was raise with.  Those two areas seem to be a good mix





Tuesday, August 17, 2010

My husband hates me....

We made a family trip to our local WalMart the other night.... That is a journey in itself when you have 3 kids. Hubby comes a long and he is a toy magnet. I am never sure who is worse, him or the kids. He really means well but often it is to my expense.

I am taking a guess by the prices listed on my Amazon listing over to the right that WM was having a major sale on toys. SD got Princess MOON DOUGH, The pizza kit.

This stuff is actually pretty cool. It is just messy when you have 2 kiddos playing with it.

They say this stuff never dries out. It molds like wet sand does. It is not wet though. Infact it is really dry and feels like velvet. Has a crazy smell at first.

The kids really like it and I could get used to it, the cleaning up after the play dough, not so much :)


Saturday, August 14, 2010

Is it over yet?



I can honestly tell you for the first time in my life I am ready for summer to be over.  We went on a vacation to Texas. We did summer school and continued the therapies and I am pooped! I need a break.

I had kids playing inside and outside while an infant was trying to nap. I tried to schedule things around the times of therapy so I was not taking dirt-covered kids in public. I lost my mind, found it then lost it again.

Getting used to summer was much worse then getting used to having the kids gone.

With all the complaining done…

I got Princess into the school I wanted to get her into, It is attached to E’s school so I do not have to be all across town.  I am really hoping this school turns out to be a good thing.  This school district has me rather nervous.  

We never intended to live here longer then this month, we wanted to be out of California before Princess started kindergarten. Those plans fell through; She will now start school in a district that is not what either of us grew up in.  I will give it a shot and if I cannot handle it then she will get home schooled.

Prince will either be going to a private school or the special education school that will be attached to Princess’ school. I really wish said school had more communication with me so we will work on that,

I can’t believe I am asking for summer to be over. I want a clean house, I want it to be quiet and I want some tired kiddos at the end of the day…. Maybe with all that I can get a few moments of me time too! 

Friday, August 13, 2010

MilSpouse Friday Fill-in #8




Wife of a Sailor is hosting MilSpouse Friday Fill-In If you would like to join she posts the questions on Thursday to be in your Friday blog post! It is a lot of fun. Won't you join us?!



1.             What is ONE thing you’d like civilians to understand about being a military family?
How lonely it can be. Even if you are single you are able to go mingle with other people without effecting your spouses feelings. In a military relationship you are expected to be single and lonely for at least 6 months of a year.
2.             What is your favorite mistake?
Giving my hubby my pink phone… It is all history from there J I said I would NEVER marry a military man… Oopps
3.             What indulgence could you give up for a year?
Chocolate! As long as I could have my fruity candy I can give up chocolate!
4.             If you could be a winged animal, what would you be?
Eagle.  Eagle is a symbol of freedom and when they fly through the sky they look very powerful
5.     What is one question you’d like to see asked in a future MFF?
           Name one hobby that gets you through alone time. 

Thursday, August 12, 2010

Happy 1st Birthday, Munchkin



One year ago today I was blessed with a healthy, beautiful baby girl. 

I never knew the beauty of a newborn could steal my heart 3 times, the kisses could make me smile 3 times over and the snuggles I would cherish after doing it the third time.  

I remember asking myself how I would do this, how I could love 3 kids and how was I going to be able to give them all attention. 

I have learned over the last 12 months that with each baby you are blessed with your heart grows bigger, your arms grow longer and cuddles are never ending. 

I am thankful for a healthy, beautiful baby girl that was our miracle. 


Happy Birthday, Munchkin. We love you so much! 

Quotable Thursday - Food


Welcome to Quotable Thursday! 

This week's quotes are about food. Honestly, I have no idea why I chose this topic but it sounded good :)


*Thought: Why does man kill? He kills for food. And not only food: frequently there must be a beverage. Woody Allen 
*Reminds me of my safari in Africa. Somebody forgot the corkscrew and for several days we had to live on nothing but food and water. W. C. Field
*You don't have to cook fancy or complicated masterpieces - just good food from fresh ingredients. Julia Child
*Food is our common ground, a universal experience. James   Beard
        *There ain't no such thing as wrong food.
 Sean Stewart


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